But WHAT About Socialisation???

Same Old Question About Homeschooling!


Compiled by Robyn, South Africa ~ © June 2007




I canít count the number of times that I have been asked this same, same, same, same question. Do I sound like a stuck record? Well, I certainly feel like one! Isnít it amazing how people like to stick to what they know, they even think it is normal and donít bother to challenge what they believe or think outside that box? Does everyone really think that being indoors with twenty to thirty other children the same age as you for twelve years is normal??! That by doing this, you will come out a normal, well socialised individual. That the bullying, the teasing, the peer pressure, the violence, the competition, the favouritism, will all contribute to being well-socialised? People actually ask me this!? They ask how my children will cope in the real world one day when they go to a real job and are bullied!


Home is where we learn all our skills for life, including relationship skills.We learn how to be polite, have manners, respect others, compromise, show love, be caring, sort out disputes amicably and in general how to relate to others by living and learning together.When in a loving and secure environment, children develop a strong sense of self-worth that is a very important part of good social skills.Learning to respect and relate to people of all ages and from all walks of life is very important.There are plenty of ways for homeschooled children to socialise.Most homeschoolers belong to a local support group that meets at least once a month and organises outings and social events with larger groups of children.Then there are extramural activities and sports, the local swimming pool, the library, the shops and your family and friends.Just about every life situation is a wonderful opportunity to socialise with other people!What did people do Ö years ago before state schools?Was there a world wide socialisation crisis?Homeschooled children have the opportunity to, like the whole world long ago; develop meaningful friendships with a wide variety of people of their choice.


On a personal note ~ I was convinced of homeschooling at my first meeting years ago. I watched in awe as about 25 children, ages 2 -16, all ran off and played wonderfully together for the entire meeting (several hours), not interrupting the adults once! The 18 year olds joined in with the adults and had much to contribute to the conversation. One was even selling us some environmentally friendly products! My children, as are all homeschooled children, are a testimony on there own. They confidently do theatre, speech and drama, ballet, gymnastics, yoga, art and philosophy. When my eldest was six, she asked to enter the speech and drama festival, requesting to go first and then proudly receiving an A+ for her poem. My daughters are anything but shy; they make friends wherever they go. Age, size, colour is irrelevant to them. They even call my friends, their friends, and I have to keep trying to claim back my own friends! I can only vouch for the hundred or so homeschooled children I know, but they vouch for themselves. There is no issue with homeschooling and socialising. The only thing Iíve seen is that homeschooled children seem to be better off socially!



Read Some More Articles on Socialisation and Homeschooling -


What about Socialisation?


No Thank You, We Donít Believe in Socialization by Lisa Russel


Dispelling The Myths About Homeschooling by Christine Webb


The World's Most Unselfish Act


Homeschooled Kids: But What About Socialization?

Homeschoolers are in the real world on a daily basis. Interactions within the community while shopping, studying, volunteering, working, or performing are legitimate agents of socialization. Yes, both traditionally schooled and homeschooled children receive ďsocializationĒ. Both forums are valid. The only difference, as born out by the research and evidence, seems to be the quality of that experience.


Can they learn everything at home?

Studies have shown that homeschoolers fare as well or better socially than their non-homeschooled peers. In 1992, University of Florida doctoral student Larry Shyers compared the social development test scores of 70 homeschooled 8- to- 10-year-olds with 70 private and public school students the same age. His findings suggested that homeschooled students had fewer behavioural problems and tended to model themselves more after parents than after peers.


Social Misfits? The Truth About Home Education and Socialization

Kitchen discovered that home schooled students outscored their peers in every category but peer popularity. Home schooled children ranked higher in personal security, academic competence and familial acceptance, thus a higher overall rating in the Self Esteem Quotient.


Socialization: A Great Reason Not to Go to School

Larry Edward Shyers obtained a Ph.D. degree at the University of Florida in part by conducting research reported in his thesis, Comparison of Social Adjustment Between Home and Traditionally Schooled Students.


Children Educated at Home Don't Become Social Misfits

The detailed study of 53 adults who were taught at home by their parents is one of the first to examine the long-term effects of homeschooling.


Research on the Socialization of Homeschoolers


Socialization? No Problem!

Research Study on Adults who were homeschooled conducted by Dr Ray.








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